When You Feel Like A Failure

Chronic illness causes you to drop balls. Because of a constant lack of energy and ongoing weakness, things just don’t get done. Not because you’re not trying, of course, but because you just don’t have the strength. When you start dropping balls, you feel like a complete failure, as a spouse, parent, employee, and friend.

It is a hard feeling to live with. I don’t like being a ball-dropper. My husband and kids don’t care much for it, either. Employers definitely don’t like it!

So, what do you do about this all-too-common feeling?

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When You Can’t Find Joy in the Holidays

The holiday season can be a lonely, hard time for those of us who have particularly hard circumstances. Perhaps you have lost a loved one with whom you used to spend the holidays. Or maybe, like me, you live with chronic pain, and each day is hard beyond belief. Or perhaps your little ones are grown and the house is now empty on Christmas day. All of the these things can make the holiday season particularly hard to bear.

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Why Does God Allow Suffering?

Have you wondered what God is doing in your difficult circumstances? Why God allows suffering into our lives? It’s natural to ask why and to want to see some benefit from our suffering, because it makes us feel better if we can see good coming out of the difficult situations in our lives. It makes it seem more “worth it” when we can see a purpose for it all.

If you’ve ever wondered what God is up to, then I have good news for you. God IS doing something. He is doing something very good, indeed.

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When You Need Joy in Hard Times

It can be hard to imagine that you can still have joy in the middle of chronic illness, divorce, loss of a loved one, or any other number of hard experiences we face in this life.

In James 1:2, God plainly tells us that He wants us to be able to rejoice in our stressful times. He says, “when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy” (NLT). But, if you are anything like me, you might be wondering how that is even possible.

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When your life is ruled by “I CAN’T”

Today I had to ask my husband to come get me from work and take me home. 

I had been sitting at my desk, and when I got up, my back muscles contorted, causing a massive spasm which literally threw me on top of the desk. I imagine I was quite the sight as I was holding onto my keyboard for dear life, not able to get to the chair and trying desperately not to hit the floor.

One of my worst nightmares was unfolding as I realized I was going to have to call my boss and coworker to cover for me. I was going to let people down and have to accept the fact that, at least for now, I am not able to fulfill my work responsibilities.

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I hate, more than anything else, to not be able to do what I know I should be able to do. Lately, I have been saying, and have been believing, and have been coming to terms with those two little words a lot:  “I CAN’T!”

Please join me over at Arabah Joy’s blog to find out what to do when your life is characterized by “I CAN’T.”

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