When You Are Lonely

One of the hardest things to deal with when you are living with an invisible illness or chronic pain is the lack of validation and support from family and friends. People tend to think that if they can’t see your illness, then it must not exist. They think that if you look fine then you must be fine, but so often that could not be farther from the truth. Read More


When You Are Discouraged

When I was first diagnosed with fibromyalgia, my children were two and four. I was exhausted all the time, and most days, I could not make it through the day without a nap. That was all well and good if my preschoolers were also taking naps, but they were growing out of needing naps and were in a mischievous phase. One afternoon I woke up to find my two adorable children covered in black paint from head to toe. Read More


When You Deal With Anxiety

It might have been a beautiful sunny day outside, but in my heart was a storm that wouldn’t go away. I well remember that feeling of panic when my heart felt like it was beating 200 beats/min and I couldn’t breath. It was one of the scariest things I have ever experienced. I didn’t know then that I was having a panic attack. Read More


When You Are Depressed

Depression is not uncommon when living with chronic pain or illness. Life is hard. You grieve the life you had and the life you thought you were going to live. You are acutely aware of your losses—and the losses are big. They might include loss of function, loss of job, loss of friends or social activities, and much more. Depression touches everybody at some point or another, but it can be especially difficult when related to a chronic illness because it is difficult to change your circumstances to make things better. Read More